I'm holding in my hands the tangible results of a lifetime of experience: Meditations on Violence, a Comparison of Martial Arts Training & Real World Violence, by Rory Miller. That's Rory in the links section in the sidebar of this blog, Chiron Training. This book is more than just martial arts and violence; Rory explains the kinds of violent encounters, the human predators and their preferred attacks, and handling the aftermath of a violent encounter. Steve Barnes has written a Forward for the book.
Buy it and read it. This book will teach you about the physical mechanics of real-world violence and how training does and does not prepare you. Rory's straightforward style is peppered with dry humor. I can't recommend this book enough.