Friday, May 14, 2010

Facebook: where everyone knows you're a dog.

Unlike the rest of the Internet, Facebook's founder believes you should not deny your true canine nature.
“You have one identity,” he emphasized three times in a single interview with David Kirkpatrick in his book, “The Facebook Effect.” “The days of you having a different image for your work friends or co-workers and for the other people you know are probably coming to an end pretty quickly.” He adds: “Having two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity.”

No more sharing your Saturday night plans with only your friends, you must also tell your mother...and your mother-in-law. It's a lack of integrity not to tell your boss about your private life. At least if Facebook is in charge.

Mr. Zuckerberg has never been stalked, and wanted to hide his online life from the stalker. He's never had an intrusive parent violate his boundaries. He's never been annoyed by dozens of A/S/L requests (and worse) from random strangers. You're not allowed to strive to be a better person through "acting as if" in his world, you have to show everybody exactly who you are right now, all your faults and flaws and mistakes published (if at all) to everyone you know.

If you used to keep your hobby private from your co-workers and employer (after all, it was neither pertinent to work nor anybody's business), Mr. Zuckerberg believes you have no integrity. He floats in a world without context and without boundaries, where every thought and action can and should be shared with every member of your various communities--and where there are no dangerous consequences from so doing.

He has the right to impose his standards on you, since you use his service free. If you don't agree, you're free to stop using it and delete your account. That's what I'm going to do.


Bryan Hasson said...

You know, there was a time before social sites like MySpace and Facebook had the option to sort your friends or contacts into groups. Then, you just had multiple accounts based on who you were "friending" to limit data. (The annoyance of having to post content to multiple profiles was prevalent, but still.)

I can't really say much though; I'm not one who filters what content I post based on who's listening. I automatically assume that things like my Google Profile, Twitter Feed, Facebook Account, etc., are all being viewed by friends, family, professors, etc., and so anything I put there is seen by everyone. And I don't really care. If they don't like it, they can stop listening or stop liking me at all. Keeps me honest.

Kai Jones said...

There's boundaries and privacy. I don't want to share with my co-workers who I'm dating or what my plans for the weekend are--and mostly they don't want to know, either, so we can keep our friendly and work-appropriate demeanor and get our jobs done.

I've had a work friendship break up over a personal life conflict, and it ended with one of us leaving that employment. Not good!

And you have the privilege (white, male, middle-class) to ignore the issues for women, for people who've been abused, for people who've been stalked or harassed. Are they just supposed to give up having a social life online in order to avoid the people who want to damage them? Facebook not only doesn't have a way for you to protect yourself from stalkers, the company/founder don't think you *should* be able to protect yourself.